Tuesday, April 23, 2013


It has been 2 years since I posed here... so I decided to give an update.

Let me recap what's been going on for about the last decade...

I was married, X and I got divorced, I wandered for a moment trying to figure out who I was, I dated around, settled down, then got married.

Over the past 2 years, life has been great. I can truly say that I married well. I did not marry because I was lonely, I did not marry because I thought she was beautiful (although she is, both inside and out), I married because I love her.

So... there's the lesson people. Marry well.

There are a lot of things that you can glean from this blog, I'm open to thoughts and questions. Comment if you have questions... I will answer.

Friday, September 30, 2011

Good Bye

I have had this blog for 5 years and I think it's time to say Good Bye...

When I was going through my divorce this really helped me figure out who I was. It helped me stay settled.

When I was dating, it prevented me from making bad mistakes.

Now that I'm happily married, to an incredible woman that gets me... blogging here just doesn't feel the same.

So... 6 years and over 500 posts later... it's time to move on to the next part of my life.

Take care!

I hate taking pills

I hate taking pills. But... if there was a wonder drug that would let me grow hair, be as fit as I was when I was 21, give me all the energy and focus, and not have any side effects, I would take it in a half second.

Without water.

Wednesday, September 28, 2011


I woke up this morning with a runny nose. My eyes were watering, I couldn't stop sneezing.

It took me a minute to figure out what this was... a common cold! I haven't had one in almost 12 years. Seriously.

L suggested that I get some Afrin since I despise taking pills. Afrin is a mist that you spray in your nose that's suppose to help with congestion.

I only have one question... If I can't breath, how can I get it in my nose???

   Sidelined by the common cold

Monday, September 26, 2011

Love and marriage

Love and marriage. Wow... Where to start today?

Marriage is an interesting thing. I mean, it's one thing to meet someone (finally), marry them, grow in love until one of you dies or worse, a divorce happens. (Note: in my opinion, it's far worse to be divorced than to have a spouse die... if you want to know why I say that... drop me a comment and I'll do my best to explain the rationale)

So, in my current situation - I have 1 divorce, and she has 1 dead spouse - and between the two of us, we have 6 kids (we each have 3).

The difficult thing with Love and Marriage in this situation is that 2 people have fallen in love, but there are 6 other people that this is thrust upon. Blending and making everyone feel included can be taxing. After all... if 7 people are good and 1 person acts a little nuts... it can make the whole house of cards... shaky.

L has a daughter like that. Everyone can live in peace except this one person. It has nothing to do with whether I'm there or not. She isolates and attempts to reign in terror.

The questions is... how do you show love to someone that you would rather walk away from when they enter the room? She is after all... only a teenager.

Thursday, September 22, 2011

100 days of marriage

I have been married for 103 days today. Wow... Interestingly enough "L" and I have known each other for less than a year.


The interesting thing about marriage is that there are no money back guarantees... so you better choose right.

L and I are getting closer every day. I cannot imagine what life was like before her. We still have open and honest communication, we hold each other accountable, and really enjoy each other.

Happy 100 days, babe!

Trying something new

I always promised myself that I would use my Galaxy Tab as a productivity tool and not as a toy to only play games, listen to music, or watch video. The only game that I have loaded on it is chess.

I do use it, to catch up on the news, check e-mail, social networking (twitter AND facebook), and of course for taking pictures.

Lately, I've decided to go a little further. Today, I downloaded Workout Trainier. It's an app that will work you through various workouts with a virtual coach.

I'm trying to make my life so there is no excuse. Remove all hinderances... Move forward!

I'll do it... tomorrow

I love to-do lists. I have so much to do, that I often write it down to make sure that I don't forget to do things. There's a great sense of accomplishment when you strike something off your list. It's like.. you've accomplished something.

Earlier this week, I found an organizer for my Samsung Galaxy Tab called "Do It Tomorrow". This to-do list has 2 pages... today and tomorrow. You put things on your list and you have the option of moving it to tomorrow. If you don't get it done, it will automatically move the task to the next day! An excellent app for procrastinators! HOORAY!

I've tried it out for a week, and true to form, I got about 30% of the items that I put on the list done. It worked like a charm! But... as I read on twitter:

Your desires w/o a date aren't goals, they're whims! Put a date to ur dreams and make them doable goals & a reality! - Don Brawley

So... I found this new app called "myLifeOrganized" or MLO as avid fans call it.

WOW, this is a powerful tool. You can set up projects, give yourself deadlines, set up recurring tasks... I spent an hour prioritizing what needed to be done in my life with due dates.

I could also tell what really wasn't important in my life because I didn't put dates by them... so I guess those aren't really hard and fast goals... are they.

Anyway... if you get a chance, check it out:http://www.mylifeorganized.net/ 

Wednesday, September 21, 2011

Current Struggles

Nothing feels as good as being health except:
  • eating a greasy bacon double cheeseburger
  • warm cake
  • apple pie and ice cream
  • steaming hot brownies
Really, the list goes on and on. Being healthy feels good, but unfortunately, you have to work in order to be healthy, and it's the work part that doesn't feel good. Eating healthy fuels the body, but it doesn't give you the same comforts as food that contains "fat". What is it about food that contains fat that makes you feel so good?

I wish I knew.

Anyway, I'm back at it again. I've started eating healthy again, and getting into the gym at least 5 days a week. I have got to get under 200 pounds... but the transition is hard. I know I'll feel better when I get there, but getting there is NO fun.

Monday, August 29, 2011

Role Models

I have never been one to play the race card... I think that each unique race brings its own unique benefits to the table. I've always tried to be the type of person that would study all ethnicity's and pick the best from each and bring them to the table.

So... the question is... why am I bringing this up today?

I was looking for a picture of a black  couple and was surprised to see how sexually suggestive most of them were. Then I decided to look and see how other races were depicted around the internet. 

So... my question to you today is this... how do you view other races? Do you have any stereotypes?