Love is complex... it has layers. The 2 questions that need to be asked are:
- What are those layers
- What holds them together
For some, the layers are past experiences, fear, selfishness held together by guilt.
For others, the layers are desire for family, external expectations, biological clocks glued together by hopes and dreams.
I could go on and on with examples... but I wanted to share with you what my winning combination is...
Like - first, at some fundamental level, you have to actually genuinely like the other person, Can you hang out and just be you... be silly, be serious... just be.
Love - love is important, because love covers a multitude of sins. What that means is that you have a certain amount of... grace, or forgiveness. You care for the person just because... It encompasses multiple aspects... you have friendship, comradery, passion, and unmerited favor.
Relating on a higher level - For me, it's a relationship based in common Christian values.
You can have these layers... but you need something to hold these layers together. For me, it's the fact that God is involved in both of our lives. I can't tell you the number of times that in prayer time that God has spoken the same thing to both of... and that's what brings us together and helps our 3 layer cake stay together.
What's your cake like?
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