Saturday, April 05, 2008

Emotionally healthy... but relationally?


You know... I was looking at a video that was taken of me and an ex-girlfriend. In this video, she says - "I want to love you, honor you, cherish you... forever, and protect your heart."
My response to her was - "I want to believe what you're saying, but I don't think you believe what you're saying."
30 days later she was engaged to a friend of mine.
This is the type of thing that happens to me on a regular basis.
I'll get a telephone call to meet a friend for lunch and she'll say - "I want to thank you... you really taught me how to love, genuinely... from the heart," followed by - "I'm engaged now to the most wonderful man!"
Honestly, a very beautiful young lady earlier this year said - "I love you and really care for you" days before she moved to the other side of the country.
I can go back to my first love and tell story after story like this. It happens to me all the time.
People wonder why my heart is guarded when it comes to dating...
Trust me. There's a difference between having baggage and being guarded. Despite the craziness of my past, I think I'm ready for a normal and healthy relationship.
So... over the next couple of however long it takes, I'm going to talk about my perspective on relationships.
By now, you know what I'm going to say.... "I can't wait to hear my thoughts on the topic!"

1 comment:

G said...

I think that the fact that all these women have said these lovely things to you is GREAT testament to the man you are.

Okay... so that's not so comforting when what you actually want is a woman of your own.

But reading what you wrote here in your post you sound so ready, and so capable of having a wonderful fulfilled relationship. And the important thing (IMO) is that you are a complete human being as you are. I think we have to be that to be in a healthy relationship. We are complete already. The relationship doesn't complete us (as much as - romantically - it feels as though it does.) It's the icing on the cake.